We’ve all heard about the “fight-or-flight” response. It’s our body’s way of preparing us to handle immediate danger, triggering a cascade of physiological changes—increased heart rate, heightened alertness, and a rush of adrenaline. This ancient survival mechanism is incredibly effective for short-term threats. But what happens when your body stays stuck in fight-or-flight mode, unable to return to a regulated, calm state?

The answer is simple: exhaustion. Both physically and emotionally.

Defensiveness is a universal human experience. It can show up as anger, excuses, or even an overwhelming need to justify our actions. Often, this response emerges when we sense—even subconsciously—that we’re wrong. But why do we get defensive instead of acknowledging the truth? The answer lies in the interplay of psychology, emotions, and our need for self-preservation

Throughout history, societal norms have systematically silenced women when they attempt to voice discomfort or objection to inappropriate treatment. This suppression isn’t just an artifact of the past but persists in subtle, often insidious forms in modern society. Women are frequently encouraged—both explicitly and implicitly—to tolerate behavior that disrespects their boundaries rather than confront it.

The holiday season, with its twinkling lights, festive gatherings, and cultural traditions, is often depicted as the most wonderful time of the year. But for those who have experienced religious trauma, this time can evoke complex emotions: a blend of longing, anxiety, and unresolved pain.